I kid you not thats what I was asked! Am I a hippy?!
I replied that I just love my kids incredibly and if that makes me a hippy then I guess so. She was'nt really rude or anything more confused and we smiled while we chatted but I came away laughing to myself and thinking when did doing what comes naturally as a parent get you labelled?
I suppose for people of a certain age the ways I parent would seem "hippy" but I think thats down to when they first began being researched and practiced in the 70s not necessarily for any other reason than when they were parents themselves this wasnt considered mainstream and that it was for free loving hippies!
I take no offence at any of this, i will happily explain the whys and what fores with any one who asks and have a discussion with anybody. What I do take offence at however are the rude think they know betters, the ones who tell me I'm ruining my children that I'm hurting my baby by wearing her in a sling and not one of those nice "proper" carriers, the ones who say its a rod for my back or my children wont know how to be independent or will be soft. To those people i want to say shove your opinion for thats all it is, an opinion and its yours. Your entitled to it of course but please dont be offended if I tell you it means very little to me and has no impact on my life. Thank you for sharing but please keep it to yourself. I find with being a parent you get judged for anything little things like putting a blue hat on your baby girl or using a dummy. I try really hard to not judge anybody especially other parents. Sometimes thats hard when you see something you really dont agree with but it isnt my place to pass comment. When you parent in a way that goes against all the leaflets and guidence your given when pregnant you open yourself up for ridicule but the best way Ive found is to smile and let it wash over you unless its something extremely rude. For the most part people arent commenting to be nasty its just lack of knowledge.
My choices of parenting werent ones that i made before my girls were born I had read about attachment parenting and yes I will admit it at the time it all seemed very strict rules and dancing naked to the moon but once my girls came along I did what came naturally to me. My eldest co-sleeps and we all get a good nights sleep and are happy and content, as yet the baby doesnt as I dont feel its safe with Hope in the bed not being aware of the baby but if she wants to get in as shes older then so be it. I wear my baby as i did with Hope not because i dislike prams (heck i have pram cupboard to rival carries shoe room) but because its comfy and comforting, its much more practical in some situations and the theroies behind it just resonate with me. I love having them so close and my kiddos are such content little creatures because of how we are with them. I think attatchment parenting and other practices are like religion and you should cherry pick bits from it that either ring true with you or work for you. I dont breast feed I never have and nor will i go the extremes of getting rid of my prams or pre-chewing food for the girls so no I'm not a hard core attachment parent I have and will try cloth nappies and will continue to co-sleep and baby wear as long as it works for us and when it no longer does then we will go with the flow.
Am I strict attachment parent? No but i am extremely attached to my kiddos.
Yep she looks so uncomfy right?
No up and down nights for us
Putting our best babywearing foot forward